We all do it: we look at what others are doing and wish we were doing that too.
Or, alternatively, we scoff at what they’re doing and judge them, and see ourselves as better.
One makes us feel bad, the other makes us feel superior.
Neither makes us happy.
I often find that browsing social media or even the news leaves me with a hollow feeling. People seem to be doing a whole lot better than me, and I feel inferior, and intimidated.
Before I can catch myself, I’ve found ways to think of myself as somehow better, as a defense mechanism. For example, when a friend posts a photo while traveling in Europe, I think “I’m smarter than her, anyway”. It’s either that, or I’ll automatically judge people in my head. I then feel like a terrible person for even thinking such things.
I’m trying my best to change this, and Zen Habits has a post that really helps. Here it is: http://zenhabits.net/comparisons/
We don’t need to be better than anyone else: we just need to love where we are and what we’re doing and who we are. That’s what matters.
I hope we can all be happier for it.